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Hello! As I sit at home at my desk contemplating the upcoming Holiday Season and the usual feelings that accompany these times... my thoughts drift to a recent piece I read reminding me that change is truly only certain thing we have...I have known this for a very long time.. after having done the spiritual work and dealt with the discomfort that comes with this awareness. I had usually been one to desire consistency, resist change, and became dizzy when the boat was being rocked!  But in life, 'shift happens'... and this past year, in my life, holding on to this awareness became challenging and I found myself looking to redefine old beliefs and ideas revolving around change once more.... I was reminded that we must continue to flow with the shifts and hang on tight..with awareness, self love, and trust that the new and better shift will come.  I also found the following in my 'messages with meaning' folder I was recently rummaging through...and would like

It has been a while! I have thought of many subjects on which to comment these past few weeks. One common theme I have come across has been the idea of "letting go"... I believe that sometimes letting go of the old narratives and life suffering can be difficult...for many reasons. But, I would like to propose one good reason for letting go... and that is 'because it facilitates our ability to move forward'! Getting stuck in the negative narrative can keep us from authentic happiness and can create an armor of fear. I have found that the media has the tendency to reinforce this notion by presenting lots of negative news with countless spins revolving around the same story. Exasperating! It is true that bad things happen and for some reason they tend to stick harder to the psyche than the good things that happen. Some events can shake anyone at their very core... the loss of a loved one or a crippling diagnosis. These are difficult indeed. I do not propose to pour

Hello, Today is an interesting day.. much going on nationally.  A good day for those without healthcare who now have access. But on the other hand,  a bad day for the those who are employed by the government and have been asked to go home because the government was shut down or those new parents whose WIC assistance was suspended. This is important to consider.    It seems that personal or ideological agendas are overriding the importance of remaining centered and pragmatic.  I have found that looking beyond the personal toward the collective good has somehow been forgotten. Unless there is the willingness to engage and communicate in an effective way, differences will only polarize people more.  This is relevant in all relationships in our lives... work, family, and community.  My thought is that a sign of a good leader, parent, spouse is the ability to remain centered. Only when we are well centered can we evaluate any given situation and act accordingly for the collec

Happy Monday!  Hoping your week is off to a great start!   Today I reflected on the importance of having a Vision. A clear view of purpose that leads to lasting fulfillment and satisfaction in life! Will your vision leave an imprint and define your legacy?  What is your vision for yourself?  How are you working toward making it happen?  What motivates your vision?  Are you actively working toward your vision?  There are times when life's vision can be clearer than at other times. Taking the time to examine these questions periodically can be beneficial.  Many times we can hit the ground running and feel the wind on our backs moving us forward... and it feels wonderful! But there are also times when the vision becomes blurred with obstacles and hitting the proverbial wall can knock the wind right out!  Some of the obstacles can be external and some can be internal.  One interesting view I learned in a recent Brave Heart women webinar I viewed was that the internal obstacles are

Hello All! The Labor Day weekend is come and gone and with it the summertime! Although the seasonal shift here in Florida is minimal, one can still feel a subtle change...perhaps in the state of mind more than in the weather. Summer is over and most have already shifted gears. Academic year well under way and important projects on the "to do" list are in motion! I miss the seasonal changes. When I lived in NYC, it was great looking forward to activities associated with the seasons.... Not sure I could take the intense cold anymore though... It think life can be seen as seasonal as well...  The spring of life is filled with motivation and desire to make the best of it. We are determined and unstoppable! It is a playful time and time for planting the seeds of new ideas and desired accomplishments. The summer of life can be warm and filled with hope and renewal. The fall of life is when one harvests the seeds and reaps what one has sowed.   And the winter of life may fee

You may have heard the adage "the truth will set you free". I like Marianne Williamson's addition of  "but first it will piss you off"! Ain't that the "truth"... or is it?  I wanted to expand just a little on the subject only because there is so much going on in the world and possibly in one's own backyard that stopping to reflect on how we even feel about "truth" is in order.   There are scientifically proven truths that are accepted such as the earth being round and revolving around the sun.... And still, several of these established truths are debated... take global warming for example...Of course, healthy debate feeds the appetite for knowledge, change, improvement, and growth!! After all, had the theory of the earth being flat or the sun revolving around the earth had not been challenged back in the day...!? Note that I used the word " healthy "....So it seems pretty amazing how truth can be such a relative

What a difference your kindness makes for YOU! Random acts of kindness may come in different forms. For example, someone who discretely helps out a person on the grocery check out line with a couple of dollars when the person discovers he/she does not have enough money to complete their purchase.. or if perfect stranger stops to offer assistance with a flat tire or someone offers to help you with a heavy load.  Simple things like this and more. I can bet that throughout your life, someone has offered you a random act of kindness...something unexpected, simple and yet meaningful! But how easily is it forgotten? For some reason we seemed to be driven toward remembering the negative that has happened and create a narrative revolving around how difficult things are. Studies have demonstrated that there is an innate tendency to focus on the negative. If a project you completed was evaluated by 25 persons and 24 offered good to great reviews, and 1 offered a negative review...or you see a

August 5, 2013  The following was my daily tune-up for the day and it got me thinking...  Special Sparks Shining... We all have sparks of Light that are intended to shine for all to see. It's important first to know we have them, and then to uncover them. Otherwise we may miss the opportunity to step into our greatness and illuminate our destiny. Start spending some time uncovering your special qualities, and once you see them glimmering, start to share them with the world! ~ Yehuda Berg   "Daily Tune-Ups"  A year of living Kabbalah No matter who you are or what your belief system is or even if you don't have one, this speaks to a very important part in all of us.... and invites us to inquire whether we are even aware of what our sparks are. I believe this is true. I see it every day in my work ... In clients that are talented and have qualities untapped because they feel they are too s

Hello!  A new week has begun and my wish for you is that it is off to a great start! All experiences can be used as a springboard for reflection and this weekend reminded me of the importance of living in the moment and prompted the following reflections of living in the moment....  Letting go of attachment to outcome is one of the most rewarding qualities to have yet one of the most difficult to achieve. It is a quality that Spiritual Masters hold. And it is the one thing that transcends time and allows one to live life to the fullest! Only when one is in the present moment and not tied to the "what if's" and the "what now's", does time seem to stand still! I recall listening to the well known anthropologist Jean Houston at a conference several years ago on this topic. She talked about passion, the present moment, and our unique capacity to live life to the fullest and create a space in which time almost stands still. Her message was almost mystical. I

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Time.... Transitions.... and New Beginnings!  Upon reflection, I see how life can sweep us up in its happenings and we can easily neglect that which brings us passion. In my case, writing and sharing experiences, thoughts, and lessons. There have been so many. The themes of life continue and it goes on no matter what... the themes of life be they career, relationship, health, family, friendships evolve and change. When I saw my last posting was over three years ago, I was surprised.. I could have sworn it was less than that. It was an a-ha moment. Sometimes we simply forget how time flies and we let go of our passions, not because we want to... no. I believe that we get caught up in the pressures and hurried lives and become lulled into a routine and sleepwalk only reacting when something jars us into the present moment. We are constantly bombarded with how we are "supposed" to be, feel, look and have, by mainstream society and media. Internalizing the labels forced upon